An Open Letter To Paul McHugh – But, To Be Honest, I Really Don’t Give A Stuff If He Reads It Or Not.

I would imagine that if you decide to go after a section of the community and call them “fake”, “disillusioned”, “confused”, “mistaken” or “not corresponding with physical reality”, it would be helpful if you hadn’t been discredited on multiple occasions in the first place. It would also help if you had actually understood the reports and studies that you were quoting and actually listened to and understood the people you spoke to. In a perfect world there would be no need for myself or anyone else to write items like this but, unfortunately, this isn’t a perfect world. This means that people like myself who, without equivocation, know who and what we are, have to contend with people like you who, walking through the fog of their own prejudices, seek to deny us the very thing that makes us who and what we are and the very means to attain those goals.

Something you once said piqued my interest:

First, I wanted to test the claim that men who had undergone sex-change surgery found resolution for their many general psychological problems…..

…..He [Meyer] found that most of the patients he tracked down some years after their surgery were contented with what they had done and that only a few regretted it. But in every other respect, they were little changed in their psychological condition. They had much the same problems with relationships, work, and emotions as before.

Yep. Sorry about that. Transition and surgery don’t make us bang-on, super-normal perfect humans. They don’t transform us into superior, spirtual beings with morals above and beyond all others. They just remove a massive physical and psychological obstacle to actually being human. We still have relationship problems. We can still have problems at work and home. Unfortunately, we also still have emotions, much to your obvious disappointment.

As a transsexual woman, (a term I’m not fond of, I consider myself a woman, nothing less but, occasionally, one has to revert to basics), I find your ideas and conclusions inherently contradictory to my own lived experience and your attitude offensive. You don’t seem to be so much interested in drawing conclusions from evidence, as you do creating evidence to fit your own pre-conceived conclusions based on your own prejudices. You claim to know how we feel, yet you refuse to listen to us. You claim to want to help, but the very help you offer would destroy us, you work to deny us the very thing that would enable us to live.

I’m not a dramatic person, nor am I normally given to outbursts of emotion, (well, not often) but, having read this and the WSJ article recently, it demanded a reply of me.